It's really depressing- bouncing from one family to another- especially during the holidays.
It takes me at least two days to adjust to being back with a part of the family. The first day is usually an arrival from driving or flying a long distance. I don't want to see or talk to anyone.
The second day is adjustment.
The third day, I am a little more settled, but still thinking about my own obligations.
(If I am up north, then half the time this is my last day, and I have to drive back home)
*At this point, people are wondering why I'm so cranky. I am on vacation.
The fourth day is catch up day. Who do I need to see.
(If I am on the east coast, its the day of making some people really happy or really upsetting others by not being able to fit them in)
Fourth+ days- family time. Who did I actually go visit? That's who I'm spending time with.
Last day- Great, I'm finally into a routine. I'm getting along great with whoever I'm visiting, and then it's time to go.
Then I get back and its adjustment time all over again-
Whoever picks me up or sees me first- I don't want to talk about where I went, what I did, or what you did while I was gone. Sorry, but can't it wait til the next day? Didn't I update my facebook a million times? I'll talk about it anyway. I'd rather disappear into a dark hole and come out when I'm actually adjusted back to my routine.
As much as I have acted my entire life like divorce is nothing, it really does suck. Living far from my family sucks too- but it's not like I'm the one who moved away from them. Initially yes, but then they moved somewhere else, too. Now, I don't even get to go home.
And, seriously, can't some of my friends just come see me? I live in Southern California. Come on- cheap vacay to so cal. Whatever.
How about...I master being in many places at once.
Or....I will just keep dealing with it.
2 comments:
Im thinking that less trips are in order. And when you do travel it needs to be for longer periods of time. 1 or 2 longer trips can be way more fun and productive than more shorter trips. And in the long run cheaper too! Hope you are felling better soon.
Ideally, but no. I don't pay for anything when I see my family, and its all during off times at work/school. Therefore longer trips aren't options.
Plus, the up sides are huge, too. Would you really want to see your mom or dad only once a year?
It takes a toll on me but overall its so worth it.
......just venting.
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